Some people claim that it happened to them and it was like you raise your head, meet those eyes and tell yourself “It is He/She!”. Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes in another they can make a lasting impression on as. Also they say that it takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first.

Very many factors act in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. These are our ideals, intuition or “fast logic”, imagination etc. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love. Less possibility that it will happen if you are tired, stressed, solving problems in you mind. Of cause the main part in falling in love is given to the appearance, voice, gestures, smell. One person intuitively searches in the other the qualities and the feature to complete him/herself. Of causes beautiful people attract attention the most,  but sometimes it’s wrong to fall in love with them easily because those people are experiencing much attention from the people of the other sex all the time and your delightful reaction may simply have no answers.

In my opinion, love at the first sight is impossible because this feeling need time, process, and situation to realize that this happen to us, just like javaness proverb ‘witing tresno jalaran soko kulino’, and the first time we meet someone is not love, but I call it attraction. There is big difference between ” ATTRACTION” and “LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT“. In case of attraction, it is purley look and in most of the cases you do not fall in love. Whereas you fall in love when certain thing in your opposite person attracts your attention, it could be look coupled with some gesture, it could be behaviour, it could be some qualities etc. which leads to secretion inside your brain, results in to “LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT”. Love cannot be at first sight. It is an attraction which can finaly lead to love after knowing the person. To love a person you have to know the person as love is not about looks and exterior beauty its about the person who he/she within the soul. Love can’t happen once you know the person at first sight u just get to know the topography of the person to which you may be attracted, but true love can happen only when u get to know the inner core of the person. Unless u can identify the core person at the first sight i dont think u can fall in love with him/ her.

More appropriately , it should be phrased as “lust at first sight”. . coz, that what it is…. love MAY happen later, not at once..

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